First thing you need to do is  go to the list and locate a Safe Call Volunteer closest to where you will be meeting for the first time.

ALWAYS MEET AT A PUBLIC PLACE(RESTAURANT, MUNCH, MALL)

Email that person and ask if they are available to be your Safe Call


What should happen next is you will exchange "Cell Phone Numbers"  (remember your address can be traced by a land line number)

Call and give your Safe Call person this information

  • Your First Name
  • Address and phone number of meeting place

  • Your  Make, Model , Color car  and plate number
  • Person you are meeting withs Name, age and phone number

  • Person you are meeting withs references
  • Person you are meeting withs Make, Model,Color of car and  full license plate number
  • Time and date of meeting
  • The phone number for the local police in the Town you are meeting


Set up a secret phrase or word that only you and your Safe Call Volunteer knows.  If you speak this word or phrase this means you need help.

Set a time for your first call (usually 10-15 mins into the meeting)
Set a time for a check in call (usually 1 hour into meeting)
Set a third call for (2 hours into meeting)
Call one last time when safely in your vehicle and on the way home
Sometimes it is set up where your Safe Call Volunteer will call you during the meeting.  If you fail to answer they will call police.


THE PERSON YOU ARE MEETING NEEDS TO BE AWARE YOU HAVE A SAFE CALL PERSON AND THAT PERSON HAS ALL THEIR INFORMATION AND THAT YOU WILL BE MAKING SEVERAL CALLS.

IF THEY ARE NOT AGREEABLE TO ALL OF THIS RED FLAG!!!!!!!!!


Hot to Set Up a Safe Call
Click here to add text.
EXAMPLE SAFE CALL PHRASE


"My dog was sick before I left the house, I hope he is ok"


Use a phrase that won't alarm the person you are with...something that is commonly spoken but,  when said your Safe Call person knows you are in trouble

~There’s safety in numbers~

In this case, we mean phone numbers—of volunteers who want to help ensure your safety in the lifestyle through the National Safe Call Network.


Warning Signs
Is the other person domineering and bullying?
Does the other person seem to be hiding something?
Do they avoid answering reasonable questions?
are they inconsistent in what they write and says?
Do they contradict themself?
Are they presumptuous about the relationship?
Do they expect complete submission from a stranger?
Are they ready to collar you and move into your home on your first meeting?
Do they seem more interested in sex than you are?
Does it seem like they want cyber sex from the beginning when you're looking for something else?
Do they respect your concern about safety or do they belittle your precautions and try to coerce you?
Do they try to isolate you from friends, family, and other people in the scene?
Do they have nothing nice to say about past partners?
Do they understand that cyber is more fantasy than R/T?
Do they seem a perfect match? Maybe too perfect?